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Dealing Emotionally with a Cheating Husband

So what if you have a cheating husband? It could get worse, but it CAN get better!

This might come across as a stupid thing to say, but it’s true. From time immemorial, human males have been hunters, and human females have been gathers; in the primitive days, men were in charge of hunting down animals, and women were fit to stay in the cave and look after the children. This just goes to say… men have a genetic predisposition to spread their seeds in order to assure survival of the species, while women have a genetic predisposition for watching over the sacred temple: home.

Rest assured though… I’m not trying to say that it’s okay for men to cheat because they are just following their genetic programs. Any man who uses such argument to his defense is foolish, and he has clearly forgotten the days of prehistoric caves are long gone. But still… you should keep in mind that sometimes men will cheat not because they’re unhappy with their relationships, but simply because it’s just… something they do. Granted, if you’ve been victim of a cheating husband this logic will do you no good, but it might set you on the path to setting things straight.

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UGOlog.com, Turn Your PC Webcam into a Spy Camera for Free

A hidden camera is an age old way of catching a cheating spouse. There is nothing better than catching a cheating spouse red handed. You may have even considered buying an expensive spy cam, but hidden cameras are expensive and not exactly sold at walmart. But hold on a second.. maybe you can use your computer as a spy cam! Why spend hundreds of dollars on hidden spy cameras when you can use the camera attached your laptop/PC? Duhhhh..

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7 Legitimate Reasons to Spy on your Spouse

With this blog containing articles on how to hack facebook or myspace, I get a lot of mixed feedback from readers. A few people say “if you don’t trust your partner, don’t be with them” or that invading the privacy of anyone is immoral and low. The thing these people don’t understand is that it’s different when someone accepts a committed relationship with you. You have every right know who they are talking to or what they are doing if you’re in a committed relationship with that person.

If you’re thinking about spying on your spouse you have probably already detected some signs that your spouse may be cheating. Forget morals. Do the ends justify the means? Spying on your spouse can be the right choice for many reasons, and here are 7:

1. The desire to know the truth: Probably for some time you have sensed something is different or questioned the change of behavior in your partner. Perhaps you confronted your cheating husband or cheating wife and it was met with denial. This created a huge dilemma for you because a part of you was screaming, Hey, this doesn’t fit! I don’t believe it! To deny this part of you, which KNOWS the truth, creates a tremendous internal turmoil. Continue reading “7 Legitimate Reasons to Spy on your Spouse” »

How To Ask Your Girlfriend If She’s Cheating On You

When a guy starts suspecting he’s getting cheated on, the most diverse reactions may ensue: such as spying, inquisition, begging, acting out, pouting or picking bar fights. But stop for a minute there; do you suppose any of those things is the manly and mature thing to do? If so, then you need to check your sense of perspective.

The mature thing to do is if you find yourself in this uncomfortable place is coming out straight and asking your girlfriend if she’s cheating on you. Grab the bull by the horns, rather than beating around the bush, you know? Obviously, it won’t be an easy conversation, and she might try avoiding your question lying… but this isn’t about her – it’s about you doing the right thing, the right way.

Besides, there are some tricks you can use to make sure you get nothing but the truth, or at least get close to it. It’s all about asking the question at the right moment and watching her reaction with more attention than her reply. Here are some guidelines you’ll want to keep in mind while probing for answers. Continue reading “How To Ask Your Girlfriend If She’s Cheating On You” »

Top 5 Things you Shouldn’t Do When Dumping a Cheater

It’s extremely painful to find out your boyfriend or girlfriend cheated on you, and you may feel angry and betrayed. You should. It doesn’t matter if they were drunk, lonely, “on a break”, or just plain horny – there is no excuse if you are in a committed relationship. In most cases if you are cheated on, it’s best to get out of the relationship and dump the cheater. You may feel the world has crumbled around you all of a sudden, but take this opportunity to learn something and grow.

When you find out that your spouse cheated on you, it can make you feel hurt so intensely that you’ll want to do some really bad things. Physical violence should ALWAYS be avoided. It can land you in jail and make the situation even more embarrassing and worse for you. We’ve heard some real interesting stories sent to us by readers, and most people felt the cheater deserved the revenge – but did it make them feel better? In most cases… yeah it did, but you might actually be doing more damage to yourself than you realize. Why would you want to keep focusing your precious energies and attention on a person that clearly proved they don’t love you? You may think that’s a way of punishing that dirtbag cheating whore douche (forgive my language, i’ve been cheated on too), but as a matter of fact it’s just a way of punishing yourself.

Although an insidious act of revenge can make you feel better or that things are even, it won’t heal the wound and will make you no better than the cheater. The best thing to do is.. be classy. Show them that you meant nothing to them and move on with out a care in the world. This might even hurt them worse than any evil revenge, because take it from me… the best revenge is having them regret you.

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Ashley Madison Review – Watch out, shes a naughty girl!

Have you heard about Ashley Madison? Word on the street is that she’s a real nymphomaniac who’s only attracted to married guys. So, if you’re currently in a relationship, you will want to watch out for this seductive bad girl; in fact, even if you’re wearing the pants you should watch out, since Ashley Madison might just convince your husband/wife to cheat on you… Now, before you go and google for info on this Ashley Madison character, I might as well tell you it’s actually a website we’re talking about here. Not just any website mind you – but an arguably deviant dating service. geared towards married couples in particular. Ashley Madison actually offers a GUARANTEE that you will have an affair (or your money back. And this is not some kind of swing community, in case you’re wondering… it’s actually a service that is based on tempting users to actually cheat on their spouses just for the kicks.

“Life is Short. Have an affair.”

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How to Hack a Facebook Account

Hack FacebookMany people would like to hack a facebook account in order to find out some information. Since our blog is focuses on catching cheating spouses this is a hot topic these days. I’ve written many hacking guides for myspace, hotmail, etc. and they all are pretty similar. There are lots of scam sites and such telling you they can hack for money, or having you download “hacking tools” that are actually designed to steal your own passwords.. and these should be highly avoided.

This article will tell you exactly the real ways you can hack a facebook password and view it’s activity. There are 3 methods, and 1 of them is free:

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Relationship Tip #1 (accessing phone records)

The majority of couples living together or married have their phone service under one account (either because it saves money or its just easier), but what you might not realize is that it is very important that your name is the primary one on the account.

Simply having a phone line on the account will not matter when it comes to ownership – your phone number and call records belong to whoever’s name is on the account and you will need permission from the account holder to even transfer your phone number in the future. By having the account in your name you are insuring that your phone number is 100% yours and that you can access your spouse’s phone records whenever you want. Vice versa, you will also be protecting yourself from your spouse accessing YOUR phone records without your permission.

If your relationship were to ever head to divorce (and we both know divorce statistics are high), proving infidelity can be a huge factor in your favor during divorce court. If you do not have the phone account in your name you will need to file a Motion for Production of Documents with the court and subpoena the phone company for the call logs – not an easy feat. You could also get your spouse to sign a release and hand it to the phone company, but I don’t expect that to happen very often ;).

Cheating is something you do with your mind, not your body.

We should face it: our so-called modern society still enforces quite an infantile view of sex and relationships. Likewise, most of us are compelled to keep drawing lines between right and wrong, when sometimes it simply isn’t possible to make such clear-cut distinctions. Human behavior is a complex and multi-layered phenomenon, and we should keep ourselves from rationalizing too much, as well as over simplifying. Otherwise, we’ll just end up confusing ourselves and wallowing in unnecessary suffering.

For example, when a man engages a sexual encounter with another person besides his spouse, he’s committing adultery – right? So, this man is a big horrible cheater and his wife is an unfortunate victim, isn’t that so? Well, not necessarily. Not in my book, at least. First and foremost, we should remember that a couple is a essentially combination of two separate wills. For this reason, I believe it’s inaccurate to lay the blame for something on just one of the members of the couple.

Besides, we should remember that sex is something we do with our body, whereas marriage and love is something that calls for the whole of our being: of which sex is only a tiny fraction. Continue reading “Cheating is something you do with your mind, not your body.” »

How to Have a Breakup Talk

There are two main strategies you can choose for acting out your frustration, when you think something is wrong in your relationship: essentially you can choose being childish or being mature. Both options are at once simple and complicated. For instance, being childish is easier because you won’t have to confront your fears or handle your emotions; this is all about spying, snooping and researching… which is actually more complicated than just sitting down and having a conversation. But when it comes to bottled up feelings, conversing is never really that easy, is it?

I’ve personally gone down the childish route most often (hence this blog), because I’ve found it takes almost super-human strength of character to follow the mature route. The mature route is actually a lot simpler because it merely involves communicating, but it’s also the hardest rout because it takes a certain degree of self-mastery to keep one’s emotions from blowing our sense away, while trying to have THAT conversation. You know, the one where you set your cards on the table and speak your heart out to your spouse – which is in fact what you should have been doing all along.

If you’re feeling insecure and you REALLY want to know whether something is wrong in your relationship, and whether or not your spouse is cheating on you… you really have to confront your fears and just bring yourself to TALK about it. It may sound overly simplistic, but it’s really all about talking it over! Granted, there’s a chance you won’t get an honest answer… but trust me on this one: the more genuinely honest you come across in your exposition, the likelier you are to receive an honest answer.

What sounds more mature?

a) “Honey… I really think something isn’t right, and we should try and talk about it”

or

b) “HOW COULD YOU!?! HOW COULD YOU CHEAT ON ME, YOU $#”%”%!!! “?

There’s not much point in asking your spouse for the truth, if  you’re acting like the truth will make you go berserk, is there? That kind of attitude will just encourage your spouse to further deceive you. What you want to do is take stock of your feelings and put them out on the open with as much delicacy and humility as you possibly can. Just admit what you already know for sure: that something is off. That’s the first step towards re-opening the lines of communication; and you may not realize it yet, but those are the very same lines of communication that brought you together in the first place!

We’re all prone to picturing ourselves as victims of an ignoble fate… but if you’re honest with yourself, you’ll realize how you’re always getting what you had coming for you in the first place! In your angry perspective, it may feel as though your spouse has all the blame for wrecking your relationship… but trust me, that’s never how it works in human relationships. It takes two to tango, you know: and likewise it takes two to build up relationship problems. There are always things that your spouse thinks you shouldn’t have done, and others she thinks that you should have. It may not be apparent to you, but if you ask her, she will be quite happy to let you know!

At this point, I suppose you have to choices: give up on your relationship, or do your best effort to save it. If you choose the latter, do your relationship yourself a favor make your best effort to stick to the mature road. Be honest, and most importantly, be humble. Be ready to admit you’re not perfect, and likewise admit you haven’t always been perfect. I think you’ll be surprised how acting mature will encourage your spouse to do the same, while acting childish will just entice your spouse to be childish as well.