Tagged as 'Divorce'

Get a Prenup Before Marriage – Relationship Tip #2

A prenup is not always about protecting your money. A prenuptial agreement, or prenup, is a legal agreement entered into by a bride and groom before marriage. If a marriage comes to divorce (2008 statistics say it’s about a coin flip of 40%), a prenup will protect your assets from the person you are divorcing. If you’re a regular reader of my blog, you know I believe that most relationships don’t last forever (just look at the statistics) and that when it comes to divorce… thing’s can get extremely messy. It should not be considered bad to get a prenup and I will explain why and how prenups can be used for more than just protecting your assets.

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How to Have a Breakup Talk

There are two main strategies you can choose for acting out your frustration, when you think something is wrong in your relationship: essentially you can choose being childish or being mature. Both options are at once simple and complicated. For instance, being childish is easier because you won’t have to confront your fears or handle your emotions; this is all about spying, snooping and researching… which is actually more complicated than just sitting down and having a conversation. But when it comes to bottled up feelings, conversing is never really that easy, is it?

I’ve personally gone down the childish route most often (hence this blog), because I’ve found it takes almost super-human strength of character to follow the mature route. The mature route is actually a lot simpler because it merely involves communicating, but it’s also the hardest rout because it takes a certain degree of self-mastery to keep one’s emotions from blowing our sense away, while trying to have THAT conversation. You know, the one where you set your cards on the table and speak your heart out to your spouse – which is in fact what you should have been doing all along.

If you’re feeling insecure and you REALLY want to know whether something is wrong in your relationship, and whether or not your spouse is cheating on you… you really have to confront your fears and just bring yourself to TALK about it. It may sound overly simplistic, but it’s really all about talking it over! Granted, there’s a chance you won’t get an honest answer… but trust me on this one: the more genuinely honest you come across in your exposition, the likelier you are to receive an honest answer.

What sounds more mature?

a) “Honey… I really think something isn’t right, and we should try and talk about it”

or

b) “HOW COULD YOU!?! HOW COULD YOU CHEAT ON ME, YOU $#”%”%!!! “?

There’s not much point in asking your spouse for the truth, if  you’re acting like the truth will make you go berserk, is there? That kind of attitude will just encourage your spouse to further deceive you. What you want to do is take stock of your feelings and put them out on the open with as much delicacy and humility as you possibly can. Just admit what you already know for sure: that something is off. That’s the first step towards re-opening the lines of communication; and you may not realize it yet, but those are the very same lines of communication that brought you together in the first place!

We’re all prone to picturing ourselves as victims of an ignoble fate… but if you’re honest with yourself, you’ll realize how you’re always getting what you had coming for you in the first place! In your angry perspective, it may feel as though your spouse has all the blame for wrecking your relationship… but trust me, that’s never how it works in human relationships. It takes two to tango, you know: and likewise it takes two to build up relationship problems. There are always things that your spouse thinks you shouldn’t have done, and others she thinks that you should have. It may not be apparent to you, but if you ask her, she will be quite happy to let you know!

At this point, I suppose you have to choices: give up on your relationship, or do your best effort to save it. If you choose the latter, do your relationship yourself a favor make your best effort to stick to the mature road. Be honest, and most importantly, be humble. Be ready to admit you’re not perfect, and likewise admit you haven’t always been perfect. I think you’ll be surprised how acting mature will encourage your spouse to do the same, while acting childish will just entice your spouse to be childish as well.

Life Healing Divorce Advice

When dealing with a divorce it can be a stressful time in your life, this is why you must carry on and take the steps needed to get back to a normal life, both physically and emotionally. There are some exercises that can be done, to help both males and females when dealing with divorce, follow this divorce advice and you will be pleasantly surprised at the results. Divorce advice can be wrong for someone, but this also means that the same divorce advice can help other people inside of their lives, read over this selection, and see if it can’t help you in your divorce situation.

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Taxes In Divorce Settlements

When you are getting a divorce, often couples do not realize that any money awarded to either the ex-husband or ex-wife will be taxed by the government because these are considered “Gains” to the government.

When getting a divorce settlement(s) you will want to make sure that you realize that there are several taxes that should be considered when trying to figure out how much money you would have after the divorce settlement(s) are over. If one of the husband or wife in this couple was not working and taking care of the children the usually must be paid payments to ensure that they will not be homeless after the couple separates, these payments are usual in divorce court and are something that should be considered when going into talks about the divorce settlement.

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Divorce and Money

In divorce settlement(s) one of the hardest things to divide are monetary values that are not inside plain sight.

Some couples do not have all of their monies and property in normal value, the normal reason that couples do not want to show off their hidden assets, as they do not want these assets taken away or divided inside the course of the divorce settlement. A good lawyer will help to ensure that you will find all of the hidden assets that your spouse has, this will allow the court to divide these materials equally to the couple that is about to get a divorce. There are some things that you will want to look over, I will go over these things briefly to help you know what kind of assets you should be looking for in a divorce settlement(s) this way you will be better equipped to find these things.

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Divorce Law for Canada

When talking about getting a divorce in Canada, you should know that there are several reasons that you can file for divorce and win, without any hassle. I will explain the different reasons for a divorce that can be the reason for a divorce, if any of these reasons are your own reasons then you have grounds to file a divorce. Just because your qualify for a divorce doesn’t mean that you should be having a divorce, it takes serious thought and time to figure out if a divorce would be the right solution for your situation. If you want to get a divorce, one of these happenings, these are not requirements for divorce, but they do stand for grounds for filing a divorce.

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Divorce – When Children Are Involved

Your children ever since the children were born have been use to mommy and daddy living in the same house but since you are now getting a divorce this is something that the children will have to deal with and accept. This can be hard for many children to accept and this is why there are certain things that you will be able to do to help your child deal with the divorce, and deal with the fact that the child’s family is no longer in the same family unit that it once was. One thing you should know is there are a group of negative things that can happen if your children do not deal with this transmission correctly. I will outline some of the things that could show in the child, if a child is not properly dealing with not having a full family unit any longer.

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Military = High Divorce Rates

Military people are the people that are brave enough to fight for the United States inside of the Armed forces, but many of these men and women have been getting divorced a lot. This is due to the fact that many people that are in the Military do not get much time to spend with their family and this increases the divorce rate for military men and women.

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General Divorce Advice

A divorce can be a bad time, and this is why I offer several pieces of divorce advice in this article, these advices are just to help you get over having to deal with a divorce as many people know this can be a very rough time emotionally and physically and in some cases even financially. You can follow some of this advice today to help you get through your divorce and continue to have a happy life.

Being Friends With Your Ex-Wife Or Ex-Husband: When people break up they can feel like they no longer want to be friends with one another, but often people don’t realize if they do not get along then the children in the family could suffer. It is important to become friends with your ex-wife or ex-husband as this will help you get through the divorce process fast and without as much rough spots as their could be.
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