However, if a woman thinks her partner is cheating – why not just dump him immediately? The insecurity and suspicion are there regardless of whether or not he is being unfaithful and that’s more than enough to corrode a relationship to breakup.

If she’s right about him being unfaithful then she should leave him. If she’s wrong then she doesn’t deserve him. I know this comes over as very black and white but at the end of the day even if the woman finds out for sure – she’s going to be in the same position:

If he’s cheating – he’s cheating.
If he’s faithful – her insecurity will drive him away eventually. Whats the point of staying together?

I’m not trying to be smart here – I’m just taking the egoic “I want to be right and take the moral high ground” aspect out of the equation. Being right or finding someone out doesn’t make it ok. In fact what could be a very temporary fling may well become a more permanent fixure if a guy finds out his partner has been bugging his phone, computer and car. I know I wouldn’t want to live with a woman that spied on me regardless of how I chose to live my life.

Best wishes everyone,

Adam.